Exercise to identify your dream #1

Mark Twain once said he could teach anyone how to get what they want; he just couldn’t find anyone who truly knew what they


Most people don’t know what it is they really want to achieve. They often know what they don’t want, but then that’s where their focus and energy goes — to what they don’t want.

Maybe you’re at a point in your life where you’ve accomplished certain things — a college degree, a certain job, marriage and

family, or a nice home in a town you like — but you sense that more is possible…

You have been feeling a call to something greater than what you’ve experienced so far in your life…

You’d like to live a more purposeful life and wake up every morning with a bounce in your step and a smile on your face as soon as you open your eyes, because you have the conviction that you absolutely LOVE your life. You want to have more energy and focus and the freedom that comes with living a life that’s perfectly suited to who you really are.

You’re tired of settling in life or going through the motions.

You want more because you know you’re capable of more. But you’re not exactly sure what that looks like.

Maybe you’ve explored different ideas in your mind.


“You want more because you know you’re capable of more”


What is it that you’d truly love?

This is where you get stuck, and it’s usually for one of three reasons:

  1. You don’t feel particularly passionate about any one thing.

You’ve often heard that you should do what you’re passionate about. The problem is that you’re not particularly excited about anything. Sure, you have interests and hobbies, but they’re not something you necessarily want to engage in full-time.

You may even like your job well enough, but you don’t want to do it for the rest of your life. You’d like to be doing something that’s a lot more gratifying for you, you just don’t know what that is.

One thing is for sure, you don’t want to live the same life, doing the same things a decade or two from now. You know something must change and you know the first step is figuring out what you want and your dream is.

  1. You have too many dreams and don’t know which one to focus on first.

You’re a person who has a lot of interests and passions. The problem is, you don’t know which one you should focus on first. You know you can’t possibly pursue all the dreams you have, since they’re so different. Success comes easiest to those who maintain focus on one goal at a time, to the exclusion of all other distractions.

You need help narrowing down what it is you should pursue, and you want to feel confident that you made the right choice.

  1. You’re scared to have a dream because you don’t want to be let down.

You’d love to live a different kind of life and wake up each morning with excitement and clarity of purpose. Who wouldn’t? The problem is that every time you allow yourself a moment to imagine a dream, you get nervous. What if you don’t have what it takes to accomplish it? The idea of investing so much of yourself in a dream, but not having what it takes to make it a reality, paralyzes you.

You’d almost rather spend your life not hoping for more, and living a life that’s “OK,” than putting all your time, energy and investment into a dream just to see your efforts fail. To you, failure would be crushing. So you go along, trying to be happy with what you have, because fear stops you from going after what you really want.

The other challenge is that you may be stifling your imagination before it even gets the chance to develop a dream. The “adult” inside of each of us systematically measures the thing we want and immediately asks the question, “Is this possible?” and inevitably, we find many reasons to answer, “no.” Asking, “What’s possible?”, before we even allow

ourselves to dream, is an acid that eats



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